"Who exactly do you want to be? What kind of person do you want to be? What are your personal ideals? Whom do you admire? What are their special traits that you would make your own?
It's time to stop being vague. If you wish to be an extraordinary person, if you wish to be wise, then you should explicitly identify the kind of person you aspire to become. If you have a daybook, write down who you're trying to be, so that you can refer to this self-definition. Precisely describe the demeanor you want to adopt so that you may preserve it when you are by yourself or with other people" - Epictetus
I must construct for myself a model then, a figure who may not even exist and is composed of the parts of many people. From my father his drive to succeed, from my brother his application of learning, from my oldest brother his drive staunch adherence to his values. From my wife I would like her kindness and from my mother her selflessness for her children. A truly mythical person indeed. Teachers, mentors, employers and coworkers would all go into this. I must construct my sage so that they can teach me to be a better person.