"If any be unhappy, let him remember that he is unhappy by reason of himself alone. For God hath made all men to enjoy felicity and constancy of good."
It is hard to admit you are the cause of your misery. It is easy to be a victim, to believe you have been wronged. Cursed, violated and downtrodden are all afflictions of the mind. It is even harder to change this perspective once it takes root. The need for pity, the desire for comfort from others is a very addictive thing. The mind begins to yearn for it. When a change occurs there is a withdrawl just as with any drug. The ease with which we want to slip back into old habits is tempting. But with reason as the antidote and the virtues as rails to guide me I can recover my soul.